So many people message me looking for marriage, so I feel this needs to be explained.
I only have multiple open relationships, where we look at people as human beings and not objects of possession to control, as marriage and monogamy do with people. In an open relationship, love can grow. Why? Because to love another human, you'd have to support and help them in anyway to be all of what makes up them as a human, WITHOUT any conditions, rules, or restrictions and expecting nothing in return,(unless detrimental to their own or other's health and well being, of course). Yes, that is what true love towards another human is all about in any form, whether parent's, siblings, friends, neighbors or even strangers.
This is not possible with possession ownerships created by religion. Instead, we have one person restricting the other and only allowing the other to do what they want or is OK with them. The other person does the same. So you have each person controlling each other, instead of supporting who the other truly is as a human being. Why do you think the divorce rate is somewhere around 50%? It's not real!!!!!!!!
This is not love! It's ownership. Marriage is a license to own created by men to possess women. Monogamy dehumanizes one into nothing more than the car or phone or whatever possession.
Think about it. Is it really love when you force the other to do only what you want and to curtail the other from being true to themselves? We have no clue what the needs, wants, and desires are of anyone else. Only I know what I need for me.
Jealousy can not be found if there is true love. Jealousy is nothing more than not wishing the other person to be themselves, but only a possession that is not wished to be shared with others. Your object has no say......
A society was created which is based on the "Mine Syndrome",,,,,,, Mine, mine, mine. After we are placed in our little box at birth, we have to strive for as many possessions, money, power. It's forced on us. We are classified according to how many possessions we can accumulate at any cost of human life. Thus the Mine syndrome is also what is the focus of possession ownerships of monogamy.
Now does this mean 2 people can be happy in monogamy? Of course some may. The chances of finding true unconditional love in a one on one relationship, with what religion created the entity "monogamy" for, would be like winning the lottery. The chances of finding someone as society has dating set up, where the true inner feelings are not able to show, are very slim.
First a person needs to step out of the box and all of religions deceit has to be cast aside to finally discover who we are.
Next it's a matter of meeting like minded free thinkers who you can become friends and enjoy doing daily activities, with no preconceptions, and well..........doing what friends do....enjoy life! This may also include sex and in reality should, which is natural!
Over time you have more of a connection with certain people, mentally and physically. Those who you connect with most, obviously will spend more time with and may at some point want only that one on one relationship as true unconditional love has developed, provided the box is burned! Thus in an open relationship we have the freedom to be ourselves and actually find out what we want and need to be true to who we are.
Ahhh, but now that this is based on true feelings of unconditional love and it's actually their choice and not scripted from society, the chances of this monogamous relationship will be extremely high, and probably last............
Long term relationships........Yes I do have them. In fact it's a much more fulfilling LTR when in an open relationship. All emotions are real and are truly part of the person and not dictated by society.
A word about sex also.... Having sex is something that should be celebrated and shared! It is not wrong or sinful. It revitalizes our inner being as it clears our energy pathways. It's the most, natural act humans need regularly to help keep us vibrant, alive and healthy. Those are facts of life people. Keep in mind, it's religion that deemed sex as evil. In reality, religion is what's immoral and unnatural..........
Obviously safe sex practices should be used as well as being tested to be sure there wasn't a mishap.
My goal in life is to be true to myself and live my life as the real me, not as society may dictate, no matter if it's my gender and sex, sexuality or whatever. To give as much happiness as I can to everyone possible. Why should I be the only happy person around? I love to share and give.
I have lived my life by ONE rule, and in reality it's the only one people ever need to live by, and that is "Unconditional Love".
All my life I have given and helped others, expecting absolutely nothing in return. I have helped and supported others in finding all of who they are as a human being, again with no expectations, and NEVER placing any conditions on them. A person will never blossom with their lives chained....
The majority of the people I meet in person or online are controlled by greed and not unconditional love...
Hmmmmmmm, this has just happened to me again recently...... I have teachers, therapists and others saying I should teach a class on love, sexuality, sex, gender, relationships and life........Maybe I should.........
My dream......
is to one day walk on a beach....... feel and see the ocean.......one day.......... in my lifetime....
this would certainly quench the yearning within.............
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